ETIQUETTE
This week newsletter was inspired by my podcast “Hedge Fund to Happiness” – how important etiquette is and the weight it holds.
Definition of Etiquette: The customary code of polite behavior in society or among members of a particular profession or group.
Having proper manners is a MUST. It’s something my mother instilled in me from a little girl. She would say, “Andrea never come to someone’s home empty handed, always help clean up after a party, always send a thank you note, make a phone call, my daughter always be gracious and show gratitude; it goes a long way.”
We should be asking ourselves as adults – do we have etiquette and are we teaching our children etiquette? Do we choose who we show proper etiquette to based only on what we can gain for our own benefits? Because in my book etiquette should be universal and an automatic response to the person that was gracious to you either in the time of need or just as a support system.
I find myself always being ready, willing, and available to be there for the people I love and truly care about because it’s what I was taught and who my core is. I believe if I can be there to comfort, share advice & experiences, help babysit, medical emergencies, or just there for when life throws my loved one’s curve balls – then it should be reciprocated when the tables or turned. But I find myself let down most of the times and why? Because of expectations.
We have to be careful with the parameters that we set for ourselves and for our friends and know what they are capable of. We should also remember to give back to those who have given to us.
It took me a long time to realize everyone is unique and they give in their own way. Maybe some don’t because they are not wired that way. If you have found that you have more takers in your life then you have to evaluate are they worth staying in your life? Because friendship should be a two-way street and if it’s not then that’s not good for your emotional state, physical state, and mental state because it can be depleting – then what’s left for you to give to yourself & others? Giving in moderation is the key.
If you are a giver, continue to give to those who you know will help others and don’t mind turning around and holding you down when you need it – those are the people you show appreciation & love on.
Please remember: “People will always remember how you treated them and how you made them feel in the time of need.” Etiquette goes along way, let’s all keep this in mind when we are dealing with each other.
Continue standing strong,
Andrea Jackson